Lets Talk Donor Appreciation
|14 month old Paige enjoying a bottle of donor milk|
Webster’s dictionary describes throughtfulness as, "having or showing heed for the well-being or happiness of others and a propensity for anticipating their needs or wishes." That means, giving them what they need to make milk sharing more enjoyable for the both of you. Milksharing is a two way street. You can be a giver or a taker. Which one are you?
Whenever I am out I am always thinking about my donors. “My donor would like that” or “My donor’s little one would look great in this outfit” or “I’m going to bake something that my donor mom loves!” It brings me GREAT joy to spend any extra money I have on special things that required thought or care. Gift giving may not be your strong point. Make a conscious effort to be thoughtful, because after all, look how much has been done for you. You don’t have to do everything on this list below. These are just some examples. Everybody has God-given unique talents that they can share. Often times, the most thoughtful thing you could do is offer a note with your heart felt appreciation with a picture of your baby with his or her birth stats.
- Offer a night of free babysitting
- Lactation cookies
- Breast milk bags (are a given- EVERY TIME)
- A piece of jewelry that says “milk mama”
- Diapers / wipes
- Disposable nursing pads
- Are you crafty? How about a home made diaper, wipes, or some home made soap?
- Drop off a meal
- Remember her birthday
- Send a card on mother’s day
- Remember her children’s birthdays
- Gift basket
I usually send what I call an update text or email after coming home with the milk with pictures of the baby enjoying her gift of love. It's seeing their milk in action - so to speak. It's re-affirming that my baby loves this awesome stuff!
You're building a relationship with this person; a milk sharing relationship. You may think of yourself as a shy person. I was very introverted until I started milksharing. It has enriched my life and helped me to grow as a person in so many ways. I deeply respect donating moms, I call them my friends for life.